Wani masanin tarihin Girkanci na zamanin Krista Diogenes, wani lokacin yana tafiya cikin ganga, bai ji tsoro ba da son zuciya da falsafa don son kansa da dan Adam don kyautatawa.
Ainihin daga Diogenes, kowace mace ta bambanta sai dai ta hanyar jima'i zuwa jima'i. Domin kowane yanayi ne mai wadatar kansa, wanda shine lokacin da yake da shi, a cikin yanayin da aka yi, yana da damar da za a iya zama tare da kai, falsafa, yin wani abu mai ban sha'awa kuma har ma ya rasa ƙaunatacciyar ƙaunatacce, wanda ya bar wasu 'yan kwanaki a kan tafiya kasuwanci. A hakikanin gaskiya, jin tsoro na sirri yana damuwa. Idan aka saka mashi ɗaya ko wani mask, toshiyayyiya yana da lalacewa da hankali kuma haka ya shafi mata a cikin aikinsa na diabolical, cewa, gunaguni, alal misali, ta jiki ko kuma nauyi, ba su taɓa yin laifi a kan mai laifi ba.
Wane ne ya zaɓi mafaka?
Abubuwan da ke motsa jiki sau da yawa sukan karya a lokacin yara. Masanan sun dade suna gano cewa haɓaka tunanin mutum na ƙauna da hankali yana da hankali fiye da yadda 'yan uwansa suka yi, kuma nauyin halayen motsi ya kasance a cikin ƙwaƙwalwar ajiya kusan kusan dukkanin rayuwar da yake jin daɗi a cikin siffofin ƙyama da har ma da mummunan siffofin.
Rayuwar mace ɗaya tana kama da tsarin kwamfuta tare da kwayar cuta, wanda saboda ɗaya dalili ko wani ta karbi tun yana yaro. Da farko cutar ba ta yaudare kansa ba, yana ɓoyewa cikin zurfin mai rikici, amma a sakamakon haka yana tafiya zuwa cikakke. Cutar da rashin fahimtar wasu, jin dadin rashin jin dadin rayuwa ko rashin fatawar saduwa da ƙaunatacciyar mata, mata ba su fahimci ainihin dalilai na tsoro ba, amma yayinda suke gwagwarmayar da su - yadda ya dace. Alal misali, suna kokarin gwada kansu cewa ... iyayensu sun kasance matacce a lokacin yakin, amma, kamar yadda aka sani, ba su mutu saboda sha'awar ba. Ko ƙoƙari ya faɗo a kan wasu, yana fatan haka zai sanya su a kansu. Ko kuma suna raunata kansu a hankali, suna mai da hankali ga masu haɗin kai da samoyedok. A kowane hali, suna tattara rundunonin tunani da na jiki don magance matsala mai zafi kuma, ba tare da sanin abin da suke aikatawa ba, sun hada da wata hanya mai karfi na kare kariya. Amma matsala ta kasance, kuma matar ta kasance da kasancewa tare da ciwo - rashin fahimta, jin kunya, rashin jin dadi, saboda ba ta saba yin amfani da wannan "tifles" zuwa kwararru ba.
Yawancin lokaci, halin da ake ciki ya kara tsanantawa, kuma yana da alama, ba a bayyana dalilin da yasa "wanda aka azabtar" na ƙarewa zai fara jin tsoro, fama da rashin barci, ya juya zuwa ga likitan ilimin likitancin mutum a cikin juyayi, ya yi kuka game da ciwon azaba ... Kuma baiyi tsammanin wannan tsarin rayuwa ne ba cutar ta rushe gidansa daga ciki. Bugu da ari - arin: lafiyar tunanin mutum yana fama da wahala. Yawancin abubuwan da aka sani sune gaba ɗaya, kowane ƙananan ƙananan halayen da aka haɗe da muhimmanci, kuma halin da ake ciki zai iya kawo ƙarshen bakin ciki.
Misalin wannan shine hoton matalaucin Lisa a cikin wannan sunan marubucin Karamzin. Yarinyar ya girma ne kawai kuma a lokacin yaro bai gani ba, kamar yadda masu ilimin kimiyya suka ce, tsarin iyali farin ciki. Halinta, mai tsananin haske ta hanyar Erast, ya kasance mai matukar tasiri daga matsalolin ciki ciki har da tunanin tsohuwar uwar da ba ta sha wahala da ɗarin mace ba ta hana ta yin wani mummunan shawara ba.
Wasu mata, suna ƙoƙari su ɓoye daga ƙazantar kansu, su yi aure, su sake aure, su haifi 'ya'ya, su haifi' yan budurwa masu yawa, wanda ba su da wani abu da su. A cikin kalma, suna "stifle" loneliness a cikin ƙarya. Shin tasiri ne? Alas, a'a. Saboda a cikin taron zaka iya ji daɗi fiye da kanka.
Freud zai taimake muSigmund Freud, mahaifin psychoanalysis, ba kawai likita likita ba ne, amma har ma namiji maras kyau. Da zarar, zaune a kan teburinsa da kuma nazarin matsalar kansa, sai ya kawar da shi, "ya fadowa" a takarda. Sabili da haka, kwararru sun sami daya daga cikin hanyoyin da suka fi dacewa - psychoanalysis, wanda ake amfani dashi har yau. Mai haƙuri, a ƙarƙashin jagorancin jagorancin mahalarta, yayi magana akan nasa matsala kuma ya kawar da shi - wannan shine, a cikin gabatarwa na farko, wani shiri na kulawa don ƙauna.
NASIHIYAR SHIRYA:
- rashin jin dadi, rashin tausayi da rashin amfani, ruhaniya ta ruhaniya - waɗannan sune alamun bayyanar rashin daidaituwa;
- don sarrafa tunaninku, kuyi tunanin ku;
- Gyara matsaloli kamar yadda suke faruwa;
- Kada ku dame - motsa daga tunani zuwa aikin aiki;
- Ka yi ƙoƙarin kauce wa rikice-rikice da juyayi;
- Kada ku bari hawaye su shiga cikin rayukan 'ya'yanku;
- Ya riga ya zama mai yawa don yin zabi a cikin ni'imar rayuwa.