A ra'ayinmu, ƙauna wani abu ne mai ban mamaki, ƙwanƙasa ƙasa. Wannan shi ne abin da ke sa waqoqin waƙoƙi, da kuma zane-zanen zane-zane. Littattafai mafi kyau a duniya suna da soyayya, marubuta, ba shakka, suna ba da gudummawa ga ita. Yawancin mu masu ƙauna-romantic, m, ban mamaki, duk-yalwa. Wasu suna tunanin cewa ƙauna za ta kawo musu salama, tacewa. Suna wakiltar, da farko, da ƙaunar da aka yi wa tsofaffi, wanda kuma a cikin rayuwarta ya fahimci juna, ya haifar da ta'aziyya kuma ya ba da farin ciki. Sauran mu sun bambanta, daban, kuma akwai ƙauna.
Dukanmu muna sa ran daga ƙaunar daban-daban kuma a lokaci ɗaya daidai da wancan. Bambanci kamar yadda soyayya yake. Daidai daidai da kowacce yana jiran abin da ya rasa.
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Ga wani, ƙauna shine sha'awar, haɗari, jin dadi. Irin wannan ƙauna da ake bukata ga mutanen da, mafi mahimmanci, sun gajiya da launin fata na rayuwa, rayuwar rayuwarsu. Irin waɗannan mutane suna son sha'awar sha'awa, kuma suna haifar da ra'ayin soyayya akan fina-finai, littattafai, labaru. Suna buƙatar hantakar mutum wanda zai fahimci hali. Zai yiwu, irin waɗannan mutane kawai suna buƙatar magungunan mafi karfi ko kuma kwanan nan sun sami rikice-rikicen rikice-rikice. Wannan rukuni na mutane ba shiri sosai don soyayya. Abin da yake boye bayan soyayyar shine ƙauna da wasan kwaikwayo, wanda ya ƙare, sai dai idan wasu jijiyoyin sunyi ta. Ga irin waɗannan mutane, soyayya tana da alaka da rikice-rikice, wanda "kawai zuba man a kan wuta." Wasu rikice-rikice na cikin gida suna motsa mutane su nemo abubuwan da ke kan iyaka, hana haramtacciyar ƙauna. Irin wannan "ƙauna" yana rayuwa ne saboda rashin adalci, halin da ake ciki, damuwa, wasan kwaikwayo. Dalilin wannan sha'awar shine wasu rashin ciki, rashin fansa, tambaya mai warware matsalar ko rashin kusantar dangantaka mai tsanani. Da fatan irin wannan ƙauna mai ban sha'awa, mutum zai iya neman adrenaline ko ma bayani ga matsalolin da matsalolin su.
Tsoron zama kadai
Sau da yawa, idan muka nemi ƙauna, muna bukatar mutum mai karfi wanda zai goyi bayanmu kuma ya cece mu daga rashin kai. Kowannenmu yana jin damuwarsa, rashin fahimta. Jin tsoron kasancewarsa kadai yana jagoranci mu a yawancin yanayi. Ga wasu mutane - wannan shine babban dalili na neman soyayya. Mutum mai rauni, wanda ke shan wahala daga duniya, yana neman goyon baya, tallafi. Ƙauna shine fahimtar juna, taimakawa juna a cikin yanayi mai wuya, ƙarin juna. Mutum ɗaya yana neman ƙauna don maganin matsalolin matsalolinsa, wanda zai cika ɓoyayyen ciki kuma ya taimaki mutum da tsoronsa.
Akwai rukuni na mutane waɗanda ba za su iya zama kadai ba. A gare su, dukan rayuwar - gano abokin tarayya wanda zai kasance kusa da su, zai ɓoye rashin gazawar da rashin gaɓocin halin su. Wadannan mutane suna kama da "rashi", wanda ba zai iya aiki ba. Ƙaunar gaske tana taimaka wajen samun amincewar kai, taimaka magance matsalolin da yawa, yana tallafa wa mutane a lokuta masu wahala, yana taimakawa fahimtar abubuwa da yawa. Amma wannan ba wani abu ba ne don matsalolin da baza mu iya warware kansu ba.
Wasu mutane suna neman soyayya a matsayin hanyar magance rikice-rikice, matsaloli, a matsayin amsa ga tambayoyin m, suna manta cewa ƙauna shine alhakin wani mutum da ayyukansu. Love shine goyon baya da kuma fahimtar juna, kuma ba bayani ga matsalolin abokin tarayya da wani ba.
Don zama kamar jarumi na namu
Mun karanta game da ƙauna cikin littattafai, kallon fina-finai mai yawa. Kusan akwai wata ƙaunar ƙauna, wadda muke da shi a matsayin jarumi mai mahimmanci ko gwarzo. Bukatar ku zama kamar tsarinku, ku ƙaunaci da kyau kamar yadda yake cikin littafi, yana taimakawa ga sha'awarmu ga ƙauna. Muna so mu shiga cikin wani abu mai kyau da "babban", muna so mu fahimci tunaninmu. Bayani da nasokruzhaet, yana rinjayar mu ga mafi girma ko žananan iyaka, siffofin siffofin da shigarwa. Hotunan fina-finai ko littattafai a gare mu yawanci shine abin da ake so a rayuwarmu. Muna son gabatar da wannan fansa, don canzawa zuwa kanmu. Wadannan fahariya suna taimaka mana mu sami amincewa da kai da kai tsaye. Wannan sha'awar na iya zama alamar cewa muna bukatar fahimtar kai, muna so mu sami kanmu da kuma nuna kwarewa.
A cikin zato munyi la'akari da kanmu a matsayin ainihin hali kuma a lokaci guda muna so don ƙauna. Kodayake a gaskiya, ba a shirye ta ba, saboda duk an biya hankali ga hoto, ba tsarin ba. Lyubovtsie ya zama tushen, dalilin, mai goyon baya, ba a ambaci abokin tarayya ba, wanda kawai ake buƙata don rubutun. A wannan yanayin, mutum yana sha'awar kamannin "jarumi mai auna" ko kuma mataimakinsa, sha'awar ƙauna, da za a kafa. Zai iya sigina game da shakka.
Ƙauna, abin da yake
Daga cikin dukan dalilan da aka ambata a sama, yana da daraja a ambaci babban abu - binciken ne don ƙauna. Akwai nazarin zamantakewar zamantakewar mai ban sha'awa, wanda ke nuna daidaitattun bukatun a kungiyoyi daban-daban. Wannan bincike zai dauki rayuwar mutum a cikin lokuta masu muhimmanci wanda aka sanya mahimmancin matsaloli na wannan lokacin, misali haɓaka - wanda wata ƙungiya ta nuna, biyayya - mutunci, kasancewa ko neman abokin tarayya. goyon baya cikin abokai ko "rabin "sa. Wasu masanan falsafa sunyi jayayya cewa kowannenmu ba wani bangare ba ne, kuma don "zama cikakke" muna bukatar rabi na biyu. Shin wannan ne? Duk wanda yake son zai iya amsa wannan tambaya a gaskiya.
Ƙauna na taimaka mana mu sake tunani game da rayuwarmu, canzawa, da barin halayen halayen mutum don ƙaunar mai ƙaunataccen mutum, yantar da zunubai da kuma gafarar zunubai, wani lokacin har ma yaudarar ka'idodinmu da kuma kara girman kai. Ƙauna na iya taimaka maka samun kanka da fahimtar kanka, bada taimako da abin da muke so shine farin ciki.