Mene ne rabi na biyu? Shin akwai ainihin manufa ko kuwa rashin hankali ne? Kuna wakilta a fili tare da wanda kuke son rayuwa? Kuma mene ne mutane ke tunani game da mata da kuma rashin gaskiya? Bari muyi kokarin amsa wadannan tambayoyin.
"Maɗaukaki wanda ba a warware ba", ko mafarkin maza game da mata.
Mafi sau da yawa ga mutane yana da muhimmanci a samu aiki (kasuwanci da irin wannan zaɓi), kuma wata mace ta zama dole ne ta taimaka musu wajen motsawa matakan aiki, samar da kyan gani da kuma haifar da yara ... Menene wannan mace ta kasance a rayuwa? Akwai mace mai kyau a matsayin mutum? Ko kuwa abin ƙi ne? Bari muyi kokarin gano.
Yarinya mai shekaru ashirin da biyu Andrei ya amsa tambayar game da mace mai kyau da ta kasance, amma kowa da kowa yana da ra'ayi game da manufa, dangane da ilimi, yanayi, da dai sauransu. "A gare ni, mafi mahimmanci," yaron ya yi tunani, "ita ce duniya ta ciki, kuma Ya kamata bayyanar ya zama mai kyau, don haka babu wata kyama. Bayan lokaci, ba shakka, canje-canje na waje, da kuma cikin cikin ciki da mutum yana koyaushe, kuma kuna ji.
Vasily, 21, mafarki "cewa yarinyar, kuma daga bisani matar ta kasance mai laushi mai tsayi tare da dogon gashi, nau'in, yana da kyakkyawan bayyanar, mai gaskiya, don ku amince da ita, kuma mafi mahimmanci - tare da wadataccen duniya." Kamar yadda Vasily ta ce, sau da yawa ya saba da 'yan mata masu kyau, yana kula da bayyanar.
Dan shekaru talatin Andrey, wanda ya riga ya fuskanci mata, ya tabbata cewa "da farko, dole ne fahimtar juna tsakanin maza da mata." (I, fahimtar juna - yana da mahimmanci ga ma'aurata da suka zauna tare har zuwa shekaru 1 zuwa 7). "Matar da ta dace," inji saurayi ya yi imanin, "ya kamata ya dafa abinci mai ban sha'awa, ƙyamar sha'awar mutum, motsa motar, da kuma bayyanar - kasancewa mai kyau. Kuma a gaba ɗaya, don mutum ya zama abin asiri, zest. "
- Kuma na rabi, - tare da Andrew, - ya kamata a yi jikin Aphrodite, murmushi - Mona Lisa, idanu - Cleopatra, da kuma hali - Margaret Thatcher. (Ba zato ba tsammani, halin "Iron Lady" maimakon tsoratar da ta maza fiye da janye).
Maza sunyi bayanin ra'ayoyinsu game da mace mai kyau. Valery, mai shekaru 53, ya ce a takaicce kuma a bayyane yake cewa: "Ban yi imani da mata masu kyau ba. Dole ne mace ta kasance abin da ke cikin daidaituwa, amma mafi muhimmanci shi ne cewa soyayya da dangantaka tsakanin miji da matar ya kamata su ci gaba, don haka matar ta kasance mai aminci. "
Hakika, ga kowane mutum mace mai mahimmanci ita ce rabi na biyu. Kuma tare da ɗan gajeren binciken da mutane da yawa suka gudanar don nuna hoto na mace mai kyau. Don haka, tana da kyakkyawan bayyanar, tare da wadataccen duniya mai ciki, dole ne ya dafa abinci mai ban sha'awa, ƙaddara sha'awar mutum, gaskiya ne, iya fitar da mota, yayin da ya rage gajiya mai karfi.
Magana game da mata game da "filin mai karfi", ko "mata zaɓa".
Wani irin rabin rabi ne mata suke bukata? A tsakiyar zamanai, an yi imani da cewa namiji ya kasance mai hakikanin gwani - launin shudi mai launin shuɗi ko launin ruwan kasa mai launin ruwan kasa tare da dogon gashi, ƙarfin hali, karfi, jimre kuma cewa mace tana jin kusa da shi kamar "a bayan bangon dutse". Lokaci yana canzawa, amma manufa na jarumi mai kyau ya kasance a cikin ƙarni, amma akwai jarumawa kuma ba tare da wata alama ba sosai ... Saboda haka hankali a cikin tunanin mata manufa na ainihin mutum an kafa - mai karfi, ƙarfin hali da kuma m. Daga bisani, wannan manufa ta koma fuskar fuska ta talabijin ... Ana iya kasancewa a matsayin wakiltar mata da yanzu, kawai a cikin karni na wasu abubuwa sun hada da su: baya ga malamin ilimi, mai karfi, mai basira, mutum mai wadatarwa, matar tana son ganin abokin tarayya - mai basira, karimci, ji da ba'a da kuma irin. Kuma manufa ya canza tare da shekaru.
Julia mai shekaru goma sha biyar, wanda ta sadu a wurin shakatawa, ya yi mafarki don saduwa da yara waɗanda za su kasance kamar kamannin gumakan samari na yanzu daga ɗakunan mujallu masu ban mamaki. Duk da yake siffofin su ko halaye ba su nuna dabi'un yarinyar. Gaskiya ne cewa a wannan zamani suna kula da bayyanar.
Elvira, mai shekaru 23: "Ban yarda da komai ba, domin na yi imani cewa kowane mutum yana da raunana, amma muna fada da ƙauna tare da mutane, (ba a ganuwa gare mu) cewa muna rufe idanun mu. Da farko, mutum ya kasance mai karimci, mai hankali da kuma jin dadi. Kowace yarinya tana da matsayinta ta ainihin mutum, amma duk abin da yake da bambanci da cewa akidu sun bambanta. "
Alena, shekaru 40: "A lokacinmu, mutum ya kasance aboki da wanda zaku iya magana, wanda zai yi sha'awar taimakawa, domin kuna son jin goyon bayansa, don ya iya sanya kafada a daidai lokacin. Amma kar ka manta game da romance, saboda bukatun wannan ko da a cikin shekaru 40 bai rigaya bace, Ina so in ba furanni. A cikin shekaru, dabi'u ya canza. Alal misali, bayyanar ba ta taka muhimmiyar rawa ba, kuma mafi yawan hankali yana kusantar da dangantaka da juna. "
Saboda haka, manufa shine: mutumin da yake da kyakkyawar kyau daga murfin mujallar mai mahimmanci, wato, mai kyau, karimci, mai hankali, tare da jin dadi, ƙauna, abin dogara, wanda zai iya samar da iyali da kuma yaba matarsa.
Bayani na masu ilimin kimiyya.
Masana ilimin kimiyya sunce cewa tare da ci gaban kimiyya da fasahar fasaha, al'amuran tunanin mutum ya ɓata, kuma siffar mutane masu kyau sun canza don mafi alhẽri. A baya can, yanayin ya rinjayi halin kirki na halin mutumin, kuma a yau - kudi. Kimanin shekaru 10 da suka wuce duk abin da ya kasance 50 zuwa 50. Ma'anar mutane masu kyau sun bambanta ga kowa. Hakika, dangantakar dake tsakanin mazajen aure ta bambanta da lokaci, kuma wannan al'ada ne. To, idan miji da miji suna makantawa ga rashin juna. Idan babu sulhuntawa tsakanin su, rikice-rikicen suna fitowa wanda zai haifar da saki. "
Masanin kimiyya na Amurka W. Harley ya yi karatun shekaru dubban ma'aurata da yawa kuma ya zo ga wannan ƙaddamarwa game da tsammanin kowane abokin tarayya. Sukan tsammanin maza da mata: samun jima'i, mace mai kyau, aikin gida, goyon bayan halin kirki ga mijinta. Binciken mata game da maza: tausayi, soyayya, kulawa, sadarwa, gaskiya, budewa, goyon baya na kudi, ƙaunar iyali, sa hannu wajen bunkasa yara. A cewar Harley, sau da yawa gazawar maza da mata wajen gina iyali shi ne saboda rashin fahimtar bukatun juna.
Saboda haka, yana fitowa, cewa manufa ta dogara ne, na farko, a kan kariyar bukatunta? Ko kuma manufa ce ta jituwa na cikin ciki da na duniya? Kuma idan wannan jituwa ba ta kasance a yanayi ba, to, yaya mutum yake! Tambayoyin sun kasance masu rudani.