An dade daɗewa cewa, wakilan mawuyacin jima'i, kasancewa da sanyi da kuma haɓaka dabi'un, yana jawo sha'awar mata fiye da maza waɗanda ke bayyana yadda suke ji. Maza daga cikin irin wannan suna kiyaye mata a wani nesa, kalmomi masu tausayi da masu tausayi sun kasance masu banƙyama a gare su. Haka kuma ya shafi compliments. Suna da tabbaci game da ra'ayinsu kuma saboda haka kusan basu yarda da kuskuren su ba. Ya biyo baya cewa gafarar mutanen da ke cikin wannan rukuni suna da matukar wuya. Idan dukkanin siffofin da suka gabata sun kasance masu mahimmanci a cikin abokin tarayya, to, za ka iya amincewa da cewa kana da mutum mai tsananin fushi.
Shin haƙuri zai isa?
Wannan shine babbar tambaya, wanda yarinyar zata amsa, wanda ya zaba wani wakilin namiji mai sanyi. A gaskiya ma, wannan shafin yanar gizo kamar yadda yake.
Bayan haka, kowane yarinya yana buƙatar ta na biyu don tunawa da ita yadda ake ƙaunarta, game da yadda yake da kyau a kusa. Don jin soyayya ga jima'i mai kyau yana da matukar muhimmanci. Amma, tun da zaɓin irin nau'ikan mutum, wanda yake cikin haɗari, za ku yarda cewa ba za ku ji duk wannan ba. Kuna buƙatar ku kasance da tabbaci a cikin abinda kuka zaɓa, saboda da kalmomin wannan za a tabbatar da sau da yawa.
Kuma a tsawon lokaci, babu abin da zai canza. Saboda haka, akwai nau'i biyu, ko kuma ya kasance kusa da irin wannan mutum kuma ya dauki shi a matsayin wannan, ko kuma a'a. Idan ka zaɓi zaɓi na farko, to, zamu baka wasu matakai game da yadda za mu zauna a cikin mutum.
Ɗauki mutum don wanene shi
Wannan shawara ne mai amfani sosai don kowane dangantaka, amma a wannan yanayin, musamman. Kada ka yi ƙoƙari ka "sake sake" ƙaunatacce. Bayan haka, yana da kamar yadda yake, kuma yana da irin wannan da kuka ƙaunace shi. Kuma tun lokacin da ya faru ne kai ne mai hankali da motsin zuciyarka, yi aiki da kyau. Ka ba da ƙaunarka da ƙauna mai ƙauna, kuma watakila, a lokaci, mutuminka zai koyi yadda zai nuna damuwa. Amma maganganun cewa yana da sanyi sosai tare da swami shi ne cewa ba ku da hankali sosai da kalmomi masu ban sha'awa, kawai zai haifar da zumuncinku kuma ba zai haifar da wani abu mai kyau ba.
Koyi don nuna furci ta wurin misalinka
Yana da matukar wahala ga mutum yayi nazari da fahimtar ayyuka daban-daban na mace. Wannan shi ne saboda gaskiyar cewa muna tunani a hanyoyi daban-daban. Kuma ba al'ada ne ga namiji ya bayyana motsin rai yadda mace take yi ba. A wannan yanayin, wajibi ne ku nuna ta hanyar misali yadda za kuyi hali a wani hali ko wani.
Bari mu ba da misali. Kai, dawowa daga aiki, yi koka game da rayuwarka ta biyu. Kuma bayan daɗaɗɗun labaru da labarun da kuka samu don amsawa ta bushe. Hakan ne lokacin da kake buƙatar bayyana abin da kake son sauraron wannan halin. Wataƙila kuna so ku zama tausayi, rungumi, ko kuma kawai kuzari. Ko kuma irin wannan misali, ka zo gida ka kuma ce nawa ka rasa, kuma a cikin amsa ba abin fahimta ba. A nan dole ne ku fahimci abin da kuke so a ji. Ko da shi ne "ni ma", wannan ya riga ya isa sosai. Dole ne a bayyana a fili cewa kadan karɓar irin wannan tattaunawa zai kawo muku farin ciki. Don haka, bari ya zama abu mai ban tsoro, amma mutumin da yake tare da taimakonka, don amsa tambayoyinka zai fara tausayi da kai kuma ya buge shi, kalmomin ƙauna ga karɓa. Idan ka ɗauki wannan tambaya mai tsanani, daga baya, don rabi, wannan hanyar sadarwa za ta zama al'ada.
Ƙawata canje-canje a cikin halayen ku na rabin don mafi kyau
Yana da matukar muhimmanci a karfafa kowace canji mai kyau a cikin ayyukan isl. Alal misali, ƙaunatacciyar ka fi so, barin gidan. Tabbatar kuɗi, yadda kuke son shi da yadda yake da kyau. Dole ne mutum ya fahimci cewa wannan batu ne kawai, wanda ba shi da komai a gare shi, kuma bi da bi yana ba ka farin ciki ƙwarai.
Kada ku yi la'akari da sa ran
Kada ku yi jira sosai. Haka ne, wasu ƙwararru tare da taimakon haƙurinka za a iya gyara. Amma kada ka yi wa kanka kanka. Kai mutum ne, abin da yanayi ya halitta ta halitta, ainihin mutum baza'a canza ba. Sabili da haka, ka yi farin ciki da wasu samfurori masu dacewa ga halin mutum, wasu ƙididdigar jin dadin Ilaski. Amma, a kowane hali, yarda da ƙaunataccenka kamar yadda yake. Ka gaya mani, kalmomi masu kyau ne masu muhimmanci? Ko kuma irin wannan mahimmancin ayyukan da ba na gaske bane, ba kalmomi bane.
Kira ga dan jarida
A cikin zamani na zamani, ziyara zuwa masanin ilimin psychologist yana da amfani sosai da kuma amfani. A wannan yanayin, shin tushen asalin halin kirki zai kasance cikin ilimin, ko a tsarin tsarin mutum, amma a cikin halin da suka wuce? A wannan yanayin, kawai malami ne zai taimaka wajen warware duk abin da.