Yawanci sau da yawa sha'awar ya ɓace saboda ɓacewar sabon abu a cikin dangantaka. Alal misali, yana da sha'awa ga mutum ya bi sha'awar sha'awarsa, kuma bayan dan lokaci bayan mafi girma yiwuwar raguwa a tsakaninsa da matarsa, zai haifar da asarar wasu sha'awar sha'awa da kuma sauya dangantakar daga hutu a cikin mako-mako. A wannan yanayin, 'yan mata suna ba da shawara ga' yan'uwansu mata don ƙoƙari su ƙara wannan nisa. Alal misali, yana da sau da yawa don shirya mahallin jam'iyyun da jam'iyyun ba tare da halartar mutuminku ba, ko kuma kawai don zuwa dare ga budurwarku. Zaka iya gwada barci a gadaje daban-daban - wannan ma yana iya samun sakamako mai so.
Yi jarraba ga mutumin da ba shi da budurwarka ba, wanda ya kamata ya san ainihin tunaninka da jin dadinka - kar a raba ra'ayoyin banza game da dangantakarka da shi (kawai ya yi ba tare da tattaunawa ba). Bai kamata ka sanar da rabi na biyu game da kowane mataki da ka dauka (Na tafi wurin shawagi, je gidan shagon, da dai sauransu) - kada ya san game da kai game da kowane abu game da kai kuma ba za a gargadi game da duk ayyukanka ba. More shiru asiri!
Babu wata hanya mai mahimmanci za ta kasance ƙungiyar kwandon abinci ta kwatsam tare da gagarumar ci gaba da irin nauyin walƙiya ko kawai dance dance. Kuma yanayin da ya dace ya sanya babu nau'o'in tambayoyi da zane-zane, wanda, Allah ya haramta, zai mamaye wannan maraice. A al'ada, ci gaba da maraice kada ta kasance "kamar yadda ya saba" ba. Nuna tunanin ku a cikin gado! Ya isa ya maimaita abin da aka maimaita kowace dare! Kunna a wasanni masu rawar gani, kuma ina tabbatar muku duka zasu son shi.
Kuma yanzu bari mu juya zuwa ra'ayi na kwararru. Suna jayayya cewa janyewa na waje na namiji da mace zai taimaka wajen ci gaba da sha'awar dangantaka. A ra'ayin masana kimiyya da kwararru, jima'i da jima'i na ruhaniya dangane da wannan janyo hankalin yana motsa mutane su manta da duk abubuwan da suka faru kuma su shiga cikin hanya mai ban mamaki. Yana da sha'awar dangantaka da ke nuna ƙauna mai tsawo da ƙauna. A cikin sha'awar sha'awar ƙauna, maza da mata sukan manta game da wasu da nakasawarsu, yana da sauƙi gafara ga kowane kuskure da kuskure. Ba wannan sama ba ne?
Abin takaici, a duk lokacin da matasa suka shiga cikin irin wannan abu: sha'awar da ƙaunar ƙauna take haifar da sakamakon da ba'a so ba tare da jima'i. Kuma cewa wajibi ne don godiya da ƙaunar mutum cikin ruhi, ba bayyanar ba. Duk da haka, babu wani daga cikin malaman "masu hikima" wanda ba ya damewa cewa sha'awar shine tushen rayuwar lafiya da kuma karfi na dangantaka tsakanin namiji da mace.
Kuma a halin yanzu, masana kimiyya sun gudanar da bincike, kuma sun gano wasu hujjoji game da tasiri na sha'awar mutum. Don haka, alal misali, mutum, yana jin dadin sha'awarsa, yana kokari don yin duk abin da zai yiwu don kawo dangantaka kusa. Har ila yau, jinin sha'awar yana ƙaruwa da ayyukan waɗannan ɓangarori na kwakwalwa wanda ke da alhakin jin daɗin jin daɗi da kuma halin kirki. A lokaci guda, aikin ɓangarori na kwakwalwa da ke da alhakin tsoro da damuwa an rage ƙwarai.
Muhimmancin rawar da ake takawa shine sha'awar samun jituwa tsakanin mutum da kansa. Kuma, ba shakka, babu wanda zai yi jayayya cewa sha'awar da ke da kyakkyawan sha'awa yana motsa sha'awar jima'i.
Abin baƙin ciki, son zuciya, kamar fadowa cikin ƙauna, yana da wuya fiye da shekaru 2-3. Kuma sau da yawa wannan lokaci yana rage ƙwarai. Haka ne, wannan abu ne na halitta, saboda ana buƙatar ƙarin pathogens don kula da wannan jiha. Duk da haka, ajiye sha'awar ba kawai kyawawa ba ne, amma kuma dole, domin, kamar yadda aka ambata a baya, wannan mahimmanci ne na tushen dangantaka.
A cewar masana kimiyya, bayan sha'awar, kamar lada, dole ne auna, al'ada ga abokin. Amma haɗin gwiwar yana jawo rauni.
A sama an bai wa wasu matakai game da yadda za a kula da sha'awar dangantakar namiji da mace. Amma wannan shine kwarewar mutum ba daya ba. Masana kimiyya sun yi imanin cewa babban motsi na sha'awar shine adrenaline. Kuma shawarwarin su: yi ƙoƙarin samun wannan adrenaline sau da yawa - ko tafiya ne zuwa wurare masu zafi, ko kuma haɗin sama, amma wannan ya kamata ya nuna maka da danginka. Kuma kar ka manta game da sabon abu a dangantaka.