To, mene ne bambancin da yake tsakanin namiji da mace? Wannan tambaya tana da sha'awar masu ilimin kimiyya da likitoci a kasashe daban-daban. Alal misali, a cikin iyalan Finnish an yi imani da cewa don haihuwar 'ya'yan lafiya sun bambanta a cikin shekaru tsakanin mata dole ne a kalla shekaru goma sha biyar.
Duk da haka, a gaskiya, duk abin da ke da banbanci. Babu iyalai da yawa "daidai" a Finland. A matsakaici, mijin Finnish ya tsufa fiye da matarsa har shekaru 3 kawai. Masanan kimiyya na Finnish sun gaskata cewa wannan shi ne daya daga cikin dalilan da ya sa ba a haifi jariran lafiya masu yawa.
A Sweden, ba a amince da maganganun Finns ba. Shin mutumin da ke da jima'i ya kamata yayi jinkirin wasu shekaru 15, lokacin da saurayin budurwarsa ya yi ripens? Swedes, bayan nazarin babban adadin ma'aurata, sun yanke shawarar cewa bambanci a cikin shekaru tsakanin namiji da mace ya kamata m 6 shekaru . Kuma, abin mamaki shine, babbar mahimmanci game da za ~ i abokin tarayya, ba soyayya bane, amma jin daɗin rayuwar mazajensu. Wato, abokin tarayya don aure shi ne mutum wanda yana da kyakkyawan kudin shiga, aiki mai ban sha'awa kuma mai ban sha'awa. Kuma ƙauna ... shi ne na biyu.
Hakanan ana ganin irin wannan bambance-bambance a cikin Turanci. Duk da haka, suna da sha'awar wata tambaya. Shin matakin ilimi na maza ya shafi lafiyar 'ya'yansu?
Wadannan nazarin sun jagoranci malaman Ingilishi zuwa wani sakamako mai ban sha'awa - wanda ya fi dacewa da mutumin, mafi yawan zarafi ya kamata a haifi 'ya'yansa lafiya. Sun bayyana hakan ta hanyar gaskiyar cewa mutanen da ke da karfin basira sun fi wadata, suna da kyakkyawar aiki, sabili da haka suna sa sha'awar mata ga ma'anar jima'i. Babu shakka, a Ingila, a kusan rabin iyalai, miji ba ya da aure fiye da shekaru biyar, sauran rabin iyalai sun rarrabe a cikin wadanda wacce matashi ke da matashi fiye da matarsa, da kuma inda macen ta fi matashi fiye da shekaru 6.
Kamar yadda kullum, Amirkawa sun bambanta kansu. Sun yanke shawarar cewa bambancin zamani tsakanin namiji da mace kusan ba zai shafi lafiyar 'ya'yansu ba. Mafi mahimmanci shine shekarun da mace ta rasa budurwa. An haifi 'ya'ya masu lafiya fiye da waɗanda suka rasa budurwar su a shekarun su goma sha bakwai zuwa goma sha takwas. Har ila yau, suna da karuwar haɓaka don haifar da iyali mai ɗorewa tare da yara (kuma Amirkawa suna da ƙasa da ƙasa da ƙasa a kowace shekara). A cikin 'ya'ya mata da suka fara yin jima'i da farko, ko kuma, a baya, bayan wannan zamanin, yawancin cututtuka sunfi yawa.
Likitocin Rasha, bayan da aka gano yawancin auren, sun gano cewa a cikin ɗaya daga cikin aure uku, miji ya tsufa fiye da matarsa na shekaru 2 zuwa 5. Kusan daidai da iyalan da matar ta tsufa don shekaru da yawa kuma wanda matarsa ta kai shekaru shida zuwa 10. Ƙaramar aure tsakanin 'yan uwan. Bisa ga kididdigar, an gama yin aure tsakanin 'yan shekara daya a matashi. Kuma kawai a daya daga cikin iyalan ashirin da bambanci a cikin shekaru tsakanin mazajen aure fiye da shekaru goma.
Akwai wata alama mai ban sha'awa. Matar da ta fi girma fiye da mijinta tana karɓar shi. Ƙananan shekarun bambance-bambance a tsakanin ma'aurata, ƙananan damar da mace take fuskanta a kan mijinta.
Amma yana da daraja a haɗa wannan muhimmiyar muhimmanci ga bambanci a cikin shekaru? Abin farin, muna da yawan aure don ƙauna fiye da saukakawa. Kuma idan akwai ƙauna, to, shekarun ba shi da mahimmanci. Ina tsammanin matar ta kasance dan kadan fiye da mijinta. Irin wannan iyali za su fi karfi.