Sau nawa daga shafukan littafi da fina-finai masu ban sha'awa za mu iya yin la'akari da labaran labaru game da ƙauna, wanda muke haɗuwa da wannan magana: "Wannan ƙauna ce a farkon gani." Menene ya bayyana bayyanar wannan ji, abin da ke faruwa tsakanin namiji da mace? Kuma akwai ƙaunar gaske da mutane da yawa suka yi waƙa?
"Ka gaya mani, menene soyayya?"
Amsar wannan tambaya mai zafi yana buƙatar ba kawai daga waɗanda suke neman rayukansu ba, har ma da dukkanin masana kimiyya. Alal misali, masana kimiyya daga Jami'ar London ta hanyar gwaji sun kafa wani abu mai ban sha'awa. Maza takwas da mata takwas sun ba da hotunan baƙi masu ban sha'awa na jima'i. Sakamakon ya kasance da ban mamaki har ma ga masana kimiyya kansu: idan a cikin hoton mutumin ya dubi mai kallo ne kawai, to sai wani yanki na musamman na kwakwalwa ya fara aiki ga mai kallo. To, idan idanuna a kan hoton sun juya zuwa gefe - mutumin da yake dubansa, ya ji damu sosai. Duk abin da kuka ce, kuma idanun ido yana da babbar dangantaka da ƙaunar da farko.
Ƙauna da ƙarancin farko, kamar sinadarin sinadari mai karfi
Wannan ji na kullum yana motsawa kuma yana tura mutane su aikata ayyukan da ba'a ba. Ya fiye da sau ɗaya aiki a matsayin mai motsa jiki don wahayi zuwa ga haifar da kwarewa ta hanyar kirkiro mutane. Harshen jin dadi a farkon gani har tsawon shekaru goma da sha'awar bil'adama. Dukan labarun soyayya da suka fara tare da kallo guda ɗaya, nan da nan ya kwanta bisa ga litattafai da fina-finai. Sai kawai a karshen karni na 20 na masana kimiyya daga Amurka sun gabatar da ka'idodinsu na hangen nesa da ilmin sunadarai na soyayya, wanda da yawa daga cikin Romantics suka yi shakka. Dalilin ka'idar shine cewa soyayya shine ilmin sunadarai, abinda yake faruwa a kwakwalwar mutum.
Masana kimiyya sun bincikar kwakwalwar mutum tare da taimakon fasahar zamani, wanda ya taimaka wajen gyara wasu halayen halayen hade. Wadannan halayen suna wucewa ta hanyar hadaddun sakonni (euphoria, wanda ya samo asali ne daga rabuwa ga rabi daya, tunani game da abin da ake yi wa ado, sha'awar zuciya, sha'awar zama kusa da wannan mutum, kishi, da sauransu).
Hakika, babu wanda ya yi gardama cewa waɗannan hujjoji sun ce gaskiya ne, amma waɗanda suka yi imani da cewa ƙaunar suna motsa jiki, suna da hankali ga ra'ayinsu, suna ƙin cewa dukan ma'anar wannan ji na dogara ne akan magungunan sunadaran hadaddun. Ka ce abin da kake faɗar, yana da wuyar mutum ya yi imani da irin wannan bayanin na farko game da "ƙaunar da fitowarsa" a karo na farko.
Fall in love a cikin 30 seconds
Bisa ga binciken da masana ilimin likitoci na Amirka, ƙaunar da ta tashi a lokacin da ido zai iya bayyana a farkon 30 seconds na taron. Mace ta fara fara neman alamomi mai karfi a cikin namiji, yana auna dabi'un halayen halayensa, tunanin sa. Nan da nan baya bayanan wannan kima ne game da halaye na jiki: a yawancin lokuta, mata suna mayar da hankali a kan kafadu, ƙananan buttocks, hannaye masu karfi. Amma ga mawuyacin jima'i don mahimmancin kashi a cikin kashi 52% kai mace. Bayan kimantawa ya faru a cikin wannan tsari: kirji, kwatangwalo, idanu.
Ƙauna ko soyayya
Ƙauna daga ganin wasu mutane shine maganin harsashi na waje, janyewar jiki. Amma ga bayyanar ainihin ainihi, lokaci da kuma zumunci na ruhaniya wajibi ne. Sabili da haka, ganin mutum a karon farko, idan ya sadu da ido tare da ido tare da jin tausayi gareshi, zamu iya jin dadi kawai. Hakan wannan janyo hankalin zai iya girma a cikin ji, kuma zai iya zama a wannan matakin. Idan babu bambanci tsakanin ƙawancin waje da na ciki, to, kauna daga kallon fararen farko zai zama al'amuran al'ada. Sakamakon da aka samu daga mutum a cikin sakanni na farko wani lokaci shi ne yaudara. Babu shakka, wani lokacin yakan faru da cewa tausayi na musamman za a iya haifa cikin soyayya. Sau da yawa mutane suna juyayi soyayya da tausayi, ƙauna ko sha'awar. Da yake jin dadi ga mutum, ba su san yadda za a rarrabe tsakanin waɗannan ji ba, sun yarda cewa wannan shi ne. Mafi sau da yawa, mutane masu sha'awar suna da hankali ga wannan, wadanda ba su kula da ƙaunar da suke so - hormones, pheromones, da dai sauransu.