Ba asirin cewa rashin aiki na jiki da cinyewa kullum suna da mahimman dalilai na bayyanar nauyi. Duk da haka, idan matsala ta kasance kawai a fannin ilimin lissafin jiki, to, wannan batu ba zai kasance mai girma ba kuma ba zai kula da kansa ba.
Me yasa mutane, da karfi da ci gaba da ƙoƙari su jimre da karin fam, sau da yawa shawo kan fiasco? Gaskiyar ita ce, akwai wasu dalilai na dalilai da suka shafi alaka da nauyin wuce gona da iri. Ya bayyana cewa tunanin mutum yana taka rawar da ya taka rawar a cikin matakan rasa nauyi. Kuma idan tunani mai rikitarwa, ga kowane dalili, ya kaddamar da tsarin kawar da nauyin kima, to, aikin na farko ba shine tsara tsari mai dacewa da ingantaccen aikin jiki ba, amma don ƙayyade abubuwan da ake buƙata don haɓaka nauyi.
A yayin nazarin wannan matsala, masana kimiyya sun tsara manyan dalilai na halayen halayen kisa:
Shyness. Yunkurin zama marar ganuwa, boye daga idanuwan prying, mai jin kunya yana ɓoye bayan karin fam. Bayyana aiki a cikin ƙoƙari na rasa nauyi, duk da haka, ba tare da la'akari da kariya ba. Wadannan mutane, na farko, suna bukatar ƙara girman kai, fara nuna girmamawa a matsayin mutum, ba tare da la'akari da kasancewar nauyin kima ba.
Da sha'awar kallon m, ya fi muhimmanci da muhimmanci. Da farko, saboda dalilai da yawa, irin su matasa, rashin sanin kwarewa, bayyanar saɓo, wasu ba su san mutumin ba ne a matsayin abokin ciniki mai dogara. Don cimma matsayi da ake so a cikin yanayin, wasu suna zabar hanyar "tayarwa" ta hanyar ikon tare da taimakon karin kilo. Wadannan mutane suna bukatar fahimtar cewa kisa da kuma ingancin aiki basu da dangantaka da juna.
Sakamakon cutar ta jiki a lokacin yarinya, wanda ya haifar da ra'ayin cewa kasancewa mara kyau ba zai iya karewa daga irin wannan mummunar ba. Don kawar da nauyin kima a cikin halin da ake ciki, masana kimiyya sun bada shawarar yin aiki akan yarda da gaskiyar: babu wanda ke fama da wahala. Kuma babu bayyanar, ko wasu dalilai, ba zai iya shafar wannan ba. Babban mahimmanci shine akan kawar da "fatalwowi na baya".
Rashin halayyar motsin zuciyarmu da jin dadi. Mutum yana bukatar kwanciyar hankali da amincewa a nan gaba, a ƙauna, fahimta, jin daɗi. Ba abu mai sauƙi ba ne don cimma duk abin da ke sama. Kuma hanyar mafi sauƙi da mai araha don cimma farin ciki da inganta yanayin shi ne shawo mai dadi, abinci masu kyau da kuma dadi. Mutane da yawa suna "matsawa" matsalolin su, wanda babu shakka zai haifar da wani nau'i na karin fam.
Matsalolin da ake fuskanta da jima'i. Wannan dalili shine mafi yawan mata. Yana da tsoron tsoron zumunci tare da maza da kuma tsoron dangantaka da ke haifar da yanke shawara game da mai da hankali, don kada ya jawo sha'awa daga jima'i. Saboda haka, cikakkiyar mutum yana ta'azantar da tunanin cewa rashin cin amana ya haifar saboda nauyin nauyi, kuma yana jin tsoron cewa, idan ya kawar da kwayoyi masu wuce haddi, ba zai kawar da matsalar ba kanta. A cikin wannan halin, babban abu shi ne tabbatar da cewa mutuntawa da girmama mutuncin wasu sun dogara ne da girman kai da mutunci.
Aure. Yawancin mata, suna auren, suna da karfin zuciya kuma suna kashe abin da ake kira "fasterter instinct" - hakika ainihin manufar da aka samu (akwai miji, yaro, wani zaman lafiya). Babban mahimmanci don cirewa daga wannan jiha shine sanarwa na rayuwa a waje da ganuwar iyali ɗaya.
Don yin yaki da nauyin kima ba ƙari ba ne, na farko, dole ne ku fahimci kanku. Zai yiwu yana iya zama wajibi ne don tuntuɓar likitan ilimin likita wanda zai taimaka wajen kawar da ɗakunan da matsalolin da zasu taimakawa wajen tara nauyin nauyi.