Ya sarki da rashin fahimta ...
A daya daga cikin ayyukansa Mark Twain ya fada wata ka'ida mai ban sha'awa game da asalin kerawa, musamman shayari. Kamar dai, ƙaddarar da ake maimaita ma'anar mutanen zamanin da aka ƙaddara ta yunwa. "Oh, nama, oh, m jan nama!" An ce da farko pi'ite ado a cikin konkoma karãtunsa fãtun, tsoma zuwa cikin tsakiyar da'irar da 'yan'uwanmu kabilu. Kuma ya karbi motsa jiki mai ban tsoro da kyauta mai kyau - wani gangamin ganima. Halitta Twain ya zama abin tunawa da wallafe-wallafen duniya. Gaskiya ne, a cikin kimiyyar kimiyya, wani sashe ne aka gudanar game da yanayin ka'idodin manufa. Wanda ya kafa psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, ya gabatar. Saboda haka, masanin ya jaddada cewa: dalilin kowane bayyanar kerawa shine rikici. "To, bari in kashe wuta!" - an raira shi a cikin waƙa game da mutumin da ba shi da budurwa a wannan lokacin. Duk da haka, ba wai kawai zancen jima'i detente yana motsa mutane suyi aiki ba. Tushen halitta, bisa ga ka'idar Freud, tana cikin ɓoyewarmu.
Yana tara rikice-rikice (bans, clamps psychological) waɗanda aka kafa a cikin wani yaro mai zurfi. Wannan yana iya zama lalata, Ilimin Puritan - a lokacin da ba a yarda da yarinya ba, alal misali, ya fita tare da abokansa bayan tara a maraice ko cike da tufafi maras nauyi. Har ila yau, rikice-rikicen zamantakewa ne: jayayya a tsakanin abokantaka, tarwatsawa a aiki (rashin iyawa tare da abokan aiki, tare da masu girma). Tsutsotsi na iya zama iyali - rashin harshe tsakanin iyaye da yara. Duk waɗannan ƙananan halayen halayen haɗari ne na musanya wasu matsalolin haɓaka-halayyar jima'i da kerawa (alal misali, rashin jin daɗin aiki tare da aikin mutum na mafarkin zama mai fassara da kuma aiki a matsayin sakatare) a cikin kerawa. Amma babban tubali na sublimation (ta hanyar, Sigmund Freud ya gabatar da wannan kalma a psychoanalysis) komai, kuma akwai kuma ya kasance jima'i. Kuma kalmar "rikici" ba za a fahimci ta daya ba. Abin farin ciki yana motsa rai, yana cire shi daga zaman lafiya. Saboda haka, mutanen da suka yi farin ciki cikin ƙauna kuma masu kirki ne masu ban mamaki.
Yin jima'i a matsayin injiniyar aiki
Wanene yawancin sublimation? Yana nuna cewa duk abin da ke cikin fassarar halayyar jima'i cikin kerawa! Abinda ya fi sauƙi wanda ya fitar da rashin sani shine mafarki. Shin, kun yi mafarki na tafiya a cikin wurare masu zafi, a cikin itatuwan Trunks da suka hada da lianas da kuma jin dadin furanni? Ko kuna mafarkin yin iyo a cikin raƙuman teku? Don haka, ba su so, sun yi wa kansu mulki - sun kasance cikin kwarewa. Kuma sakamakon wannan tsari ya zama mafarki mai ban sha'awa. "Matsayi mafi girma" na aikin da ba a sani ba shi ne halittar kirki. Wannan shine abin da ake kira kwarewa - rubutun waƙa da labarun, rubutun hotuna, fadi-fice a kan ganuwar ganuwar launin toka, abun da ke cikin mitar da aka rubuta a cikin bayanin kiɗa, rawa, wasa wasan kwaikwayo, da kuma zanewa. Ka tuna kwanakin makaranta: wanda daga cikin 'yan budurwa, da yake ƙauna da babban jariri, bai yi wani abu a cikin takarda ba saboda hasken rana!
Duk da haka, ba aya ɗaya ko wasa da piano ba shine bayyanar ma'anar ainihin. Sublimation iya zama abin sha'awa - alal misali, tattara hotunan, badges, wasu abubuwa. Abincin kirki shine sadaka, tallafawa. Kuna so ku samu da tallafawa talanti, ku canza wani ɓangare na albashin ku, ku aika kayan wasa ko tufafi ga marayu? Saboda haka kai ne mahaliccin, kai mai kyau ne. A wasu kalmomi, sublimation shine duk abin da aka tsara a halitta. Ko da a cikin ɗakin abinci na yau da kullum, za ka iya zama mahalicci maras tabbas. Alal misali, a ranar Juma'a da yamma, lokacin da dukan iyalin suna jiran wani abincin dare mai dadi, suka shirya salatin naman alade da kuma sanya shi a kan wani farantin a cikin siffar zuciya, da kayan ado da tumatir ceri? Taya murna, ka sake canzawa - halayyar jima'i da kerawa. A wannan yanayin na dafa, shi, ta hanyar, zai karfafa iyali.
Mahimmanci yana ƙarfafa ci gaban aiki. Alal misali, fadowa cikin ƙauna, zaka iya gyarawa da kuma juya tsattsauran Khrushchev a cikin wani karamin ruwa: tare da kayan wicker daga itacen inabi, tare da vases, ashtrays a cikin nau'i na 'ya'yan itatuwa. Bayan haka, sai ka fahimci masu zane-zane da kuma tabbatar da cewa akwai mutanen da suka fi dacewa da ɗakin. A "girgizar kasa" ta hanyar jima'i ta haifar da wani rikici - da zamantakewa. Ruhun gasar ya tada. Mataki na gaba shine rubutun ga zane-zane da kuma jagorancin sabon sana'a.
Libido a cikin farin gashi
Daga ra'ayi na psychoanalysis, sublimation ne kerawa. Tare da shi, zaka iya girma a ruhaniya kuma a warkar da kai. Wannan shine tushen aikin farfadowa (jagoranci a cikin tunanin mutum, lokacin da mutum ya kawar da abubuwan da ya shafi tunaninsa ta hanyar kerawa: gyare-gyare daga filastik, samar da launi, zane). A nan, da kuma gyaran ƙwaƙwalwar ƙwayar ƙwayar ƙwayar tsohuwar ƙira (wanda a lokacin yaro bai so ya zana ba!), Da kuma sakin ƙuntatawa, tarurruka. A lokuta na zane-zane, an cire shingen zamantakewa. Mutum ya shiga cikin rashin fahimta, ya fadi kuma ya magance matsalolin tunaninsa. An gudanar da zaman lafiya tare da yashi - wani nau'i na fasaha. Masanan ilimin kimiyya sun lura da wannan irin wannan abu: tsofaffi kawai yana nutse hannunsa a cikin akwati da yashi kuma bayan dan lokaci ya fara samo wani abu a ciki tare da yatsunsu, ƙirƙirar siffofin. Abinda ya samu a lokacin jariri, lokacin da aka buga shi cikin sandbox, yana aiki! A hanyar, waraka aikin, za a iya zama ba zato ba tsammani zama co-marubucin aikin wallafe-wallafe.
Ƙauna ko zane?
Tambaya mai ban mamaki: menene a gaba ɗaya don yin jima'i, idan akwai wani abu mai mahimmanci? Kuma samun abubuwa masu yawa: da daukaka, da karuwa a cikin jaka, da kuma ci gaban sana'a. Akwai wani ra'ayi. Me ya sa canza rikice-rikice - halayyar jima'i da kerawa don zumunci cikin wani abu dabam? Yin jima'i - wannan kyakkyawan yanayin da ya halitta ta halitta, yana ba da wani ɓangare na farin ciki. Hakika, ba shi da daraja a rantsar da shi a cikin sunan haihuwar sabon zane ko wani abin ban sha'awa. Amma ba za ku iya gyarawa a kan ɗaya ba. Creativity cika da ikon ruhaniya, yana taimaka wajen samun sabon ma'anar zama. Wannan shine dalilin da ya sa mahalicci suna da sha'awa a idon su, da kuma gagarumar gagarumar nasara a cikin shekaru masu daraja. Ba abin mamaki bane sun ce: "Mace da ke sha'awar mijinta ba ta sha'awar kowa ba." Saboda haka ne mafi alhẽri idan jima'i da kuma sublimation dace da juna. Sa'an nan dukan rayuwar zasu zama motsi daga farin ciki zuwa farin ciki.